Fertility Stones and Yoga Classes to Help Prepare My Body

As a massage therapist, a certified yoga instructor, and a certified Reiki Master, crystals and gemstones are my jam.  I have a beautiful collection that I keep on my dresser, sometimes use, hold, and constantly google to learn more information on.

I’ve known for a good few weeks that I have at least seven fertility stones, with two of them being repeats.  What I discovered this morning, to my huge surprise, is that I have a total of ten fertility stones! My Mom is going to buy me more tomorrow at a shop near her work. No crystal shops are anywhere close to my own home.


The fertility stones that I have are two rose quartz, two tigers eyes, two moonstones, unakite, carnelian, adventurine, and a Shiva Lingam stone.

I slept with one of the rose quartz under my pillow last night, my hand wrapped around it for most of the night.  I think I’ll sleep with a different fertility stone under my pillow tonight.  Under the full moon this coming Friday I plan on making five jars of fertility Reiki water, with different fertility stones in each one.

I’d also like to start carrying some of them in my pockets throughout the day, which is a popular way to use gemstones; just one that I’ve never tried before.

This afternoon I took a Bikram yoga class with our primary donor couple.  They invited me to this class last week.

I originally thought I was taking this Bikram yoga class to do something with our donors the week before we start inseminations.  We will be seeing them three nights next week for three inseminations, and seeing them this week for a physical activity just sounded like a good idea in my book.

About ten or fifteen minutes into the yoga class I realized I was there for myself.

I was there to bend, to breathe, and to let go of worry and doubts as my wife and I truly begin actually trying for a pregnancy next week.

I took a yoga class last week as well, and I took several classes in January.  I’m hoping I may be able to fit in a second class later this week, before we start our inseminations about a week from now.

Will yoga help? Will crystals and gemstones help? Will fertility water help increase my chances of being fertile at all?

I’ll never know.  But I do know this: These things help me feel better, more relaxed, and more confident, and so in my book they help.

Here’s to hoping we may conceive a baby next week, even though this is only our first month trying.


It’s here; CD1 of Our First Month of Insems

It’s begun; I got my period today.  I don’t know if I’ve ever been so excited to get my period before.

It’s such a strange feeling, because while I was happy to get it I also know that this will be the last month that I’ll be happy to see my period!

In a few weeks my wife and I will start our very first round of inseminations! After this period ends, I will began tracking of my ovulation once again, and then we will meet with our primary donor couple three different days, to do three artificial inseminations.

Since my last post, all the materials that I ordered have arrived right to our doorstep.  This includes the medical cups (for our donor to donate in), the menstrual cups (I’ll insert these to help hold the sperm inside my body) as well as the pre-seed, which is sperm friendly lubricant. (Most lubricants are harmful to sperm!)

As for the syringes we went in person to a CVS pharmacy.  I went up to the counter, and, trying not to seem too awkward, asked for 5 cc baby syringes.

The pharmacist asked me what I needed the syringes for….and I was completely honest.  I told her we needed them to perform artificial insemination at home to try to conceive a baby.

She asked what size we would need, and both my wife and I told her we weren’t sure.  So she handed me a bag with six syringes inside of it, two each of three different sizes-free of charge!!

ALL TTC supplies

This is what all the supplies looks like that we will be using for the artificial inseminations.  Donation cups, syringes, menstrual cups, pre-seed, and ovulation prediction kits.

We’ve got all our materials, and our primary donor couple are ready to go later this month.  We went out with them Saturday night to celebrate our donor’s birthday, and it was a blast and a half.

This past Sunday we sat down with our secondary donor couple to have “the talk” about all the fine details.  As with our primary donor couple the talk went well, and all four of us are also on the same page.

Our secondary donor even asked about future kids/pregnancies, and if we would need a donor in the future! He blew my mind away when he asked this question.

For now we are only focusing on this pregnancy, and this first kid, but the knowledge that we may have a donor for a second pregnancy two, three, or even five years from now fills me with so much optimism and security.

My wife and I are so excited!! I have a feeling this period is going to last forever.  And then of course, after this first round of inseminations we’ll be in our very first two week wait…which I’m sure will last forever and a half.

Cheers to February, our first month trying to conceive; it’s likely that Valentine’s Day will be one of our insemination nights!

We Officially Begin Our Pregnancy Attempts NEXT MONTH!

This morning my wife and I had our initial appointment with my new OBGYN.  Very early into the appointment I disclosed the real reason we’d schedule the pap smear. (Sure, I was due for one, but we wanted to discuss family planning and let my new doctor know that I’d be trying at home for a pregnancy.)

The appointment went very well.  The doctor was friendly, optimistic, and helpful, and invited me to ask her any and all  questions I had about fertility, and the process of artificial insemination at home.

She asked where we were getting the sperm from, and I told her we had found a known donor.
She asked how regular my periods were, and I answered her. (29-31 days, always)
She asked me how I was tracking my ovulation. I told her via fertility apps and OPKs.

And then I asked her advice on the timing of inseminations after my positive OPKs each month. I asked her about the possibility of using two different donors for the same period cycle.  I asked her any thing I could think of, and she didn’t begin the pap smear or examination until I couldn’t think of anything else to ask her.

I disclosed to her that I was worried that I had fibroids. I asked her if she’d me able to feel fibroids if I have them, and she thought very seriously for a moment before answering me with “most likely.”

She then checked and prodded me, and took her time doing so.  I really appreciated that she seemed to do “extra prodding and feeling”, given the journey my wife and I are about to embark on.

She said “you have no fibroids, and I also feel no masses or lumps. I’d like for you to try for six months at home, and then if none of those attempts take, come back and see me for a referral.”

We are hoping like hell that one of our first six attempts is successful.  Her referral would be to the #1 fertility clinic in the entire country, which you would think would excite us, but it doesn’t because, they are incredibly expensive.

We are excited as hell to start next month.  I texted our primary donor couple as we walked out of the building.  They confirmed that they are ready to start next month, and to proceed with donations every month from February until July.

I feel very relieved at hearing the news that I don’t have any suspected fibroids, cysts, or polyps standing in the way of a sperm meeting my egg.

Amazon Screenshot

When we got home, I ordered all of the materials needed for our at home inseminations, except the syringe.  We decided to purchase the syringe in a store, so we can be certain of the tip, and the size of the syringe.

I bought:

  • 100 donation cups (for our donor to donate into) for less than $4
  • Two reusable menstrual cups (to help hold the sperm in place after inseminations) for $4
  • A bottle of pre seed, which is lubricant that isn’t harmful to sperm (most are!) for $10

The most beautiful thing about these purchases is that I had an Amex gift card that more than covered them.

I’m ecstatic.  I’m nervous. I’m amazed and dazed.  I’m living in small cloud of surrealism.

I can’t believe that we are going to finally start trying next month! Here’s to hoping the best for the next six months. I know they’re going to be a wild roller coaster ride that I will never forget.

Ovulation Tracking, and Our FIRST Doctor Appointment!

It’s here; our first doctors appointment is tomorrow.  The one where we sit down with an OBGYN and disclose that we are beginning the journey of trying to conceive a pregnancy at home via artificial insemination.

My wife and I have been together for over five years, and we’ve been married for over a year.  This coming October will be be six years of being a couple, and two full years of marriage.

We talked about wanting a family someday as early on as four months into our relationship.  I have always wanted kids, and to be a Mom.  More importantly, I always wanted to be pregnant at least once in my life.  My wife has also always wanted kids and to be a Mom, but she also knew that she didn’t want to ever be pregnant.

I can’t believe that we are here! I can’t believe the time has come.  Five years of moving, and growing, and saving money, and learning.  Five years of learning about each other, and ourselves, of moving forward in our careers and preparing for, well, exactly this.

Something that is as equally as exciting, if not even more is that I successfully caught my ovulation to a T this first month of tracking-I ovulated last night!

I’ve never in my life, before this month, have known when my ovulation window was for my cycle, let alone an exact time or day that I ovulated.

In more news, our primary donor couple came over Monday evening.  It was “the big sit down” where the four of us wanted to go over the specifics of this whole exchange.  I started out by re-touching on the most important step, in my opinion, which is our donor signing away all of his legal rights.  For about the third or fourth time, he verbally stated that he would sign away all his rights, and even went onto say that he would not have agreed to be our donor if signing away his rights weren’t an option.

After that we talked about what life would look like for all of us if there were a successful pregnancy from his seed.  I’m extremely happy to report that all of these discussions were pretty easy, and painless, and that all four of us seem to be on the same page!

After the serious discussions were over we enjoyed a tasty dinner that my wife prepared,  and we all got drunk and played a Harry Potter game until 1:00 A.M. We had a blast.  There was so much laughter.  We started to joke about the inseminations, and trying to get me pregnant, and I just love that everyone seems so excited, and comfortable.

To say that things are going well with all of this prep would be an understatement.  I feel very supported, and taken care of.  By my wife, yes, but also by our donor couple.  My wife and donor couple seem passionate about trying to get me pregnant.  I’m hoping our appointment with our OBGYN goes well in the morning, and that she seems passionate and excited to help us as well.

We are wondering if she’s going to order an HSG right away, to have my tubes and uterus looked at, or if she’s simply going to suggest we try for 3-4 months before taking the step of ordering an HSG.

I’m not sure which option I’d prefer-to do the HSG now, or to go ahead and try conceiving for a few months. Either way, we’ll find out in the morning, and if she does tell us to go ahead and start trying next month, our donor couple is ready and willing to start inseminations!

I’m expecting things to take a while, and even a long while at that.  I’m expecting a few chemical pregnancies, or even a miscarriage, or two.

And even with those expectations, I’m so freaking excited to finally be starting this journey!

Our First Round of OPKS Have Arrived


They’reee hereeee!! Our first box of OPKs (ovulation prediction kits) and pregnancy tests have arrived.

We bought a box 100 ovulation kits and 20 pregnancy tests off of Amazon for $33.

I actually just started my period yesterday, so I will began tracking my ovulation next week when my period ends.  I can’t believe the first cycle of tracking my ovulation has arrived!!

I posted in the Lesbian Mom TTC Group and asked for advice with using the OPKS.  I asked how many I should use a day, when the best times of day were to test, and if I really had to pee in a cup rather than pee on the stick directly.

I got many helpful replies and tidbits of information in response.  It’s a very supportive and awesome group, and I’m very grateful to have found it.

I’ll leave you all with some humorous TTC images. It’s Friday, and I’ve had a great first week of the year.  I’m excited to start peeing on sticks next week! (LOL)

Entering 2017 With Two Secured Donors

Three days after this past Christmas one of my best friends came over for a visit.  This friend came over already knowing about our upcoming TTC journey this year, knowing most of what was involved, and the fact that we were still looking for a secondary/backup donor.

After lots of talking, and me explaining how everything worked, and her asking lots of questions, she looked me straight in the eye, with a tone of hopefulness and lightness to her voice, and asked me if we had any interest in using her husband as our secondary donor.  I admitted right away that he had made our “list” of possible donors, and that we would, in fact, like to use him with her blessing.

They both know that he would sign his parental and all rights away, just as our first donor couple do.  They are both very relaxed about everything, and truly seem on board with being a donor couple for us.  The four of us, my wife included, will sit down later this month to go over all the little details.

I cannot believe that we are entering 2017 with two known donors on board.  And these aren’t just two known donors that we just happened to find; they are the first two donors at the top of my list whom I hoped would work out, and who would be willing to help us.

Our first pack of OPKs (ovulation prediction kits) are currently in the mail and on their way to us.  I will start tracking my ovulation with my period this month.  Our first doctor’s appointment is sixteen days away.  This weekend we are going to buy our first bottle of prenatals, which I plan to start taking immediately.

I cannot believe we are here.  I cannot believe this year is here.  It’s truly 2017, we have two known donors, and a doctor’s appointment coming up.

I almost want to pinch myself to make sure this is all real.  Both my head and my heart can hardly take that all this preparation is happening, and that we may start trying for a pregnancy in just a few months!

Christmas Eve With Our New Donor Couple

My wife and I were invited to spend Christmas Eve with our very newly secured donor couple this year.  When I say “very newly” secured I mean that I sat down with them both just a week ago today, separately, and asked if they would be a donor couple for us.

We made an apple pie and brought it over to their home. I had offered to after our donor’s girlfriend told us that she planned on buying one after all the dinner they were cooking. At the time that I had offered, via text message, she seemed very warmed and happy that I had offered.

The evening was fun and warm, and full of secret glances and smiles.  A short while after we had arrived, our donor followed me into their kitchen.

He greeted me with a laugh as he said “Hey Baby Mama!,” and I, comfortable in our level of friendship and years of knowing each other, plunged right in with “so you are truly on board with all of this?”

For a moment he looked somewhat hurt at the thought that maybe I wasn’t fully trusting that he was 100% willing to be our donor.  But, this was the first time seeing him since I had sat him down and asked.  My heart was too afraid to accept several text message confirmations as truly being on board.

He instantly reassured me with “How could I deny you this happiness? My only concern was that (insert his girlfriend’s name) was on board, and with her blessing, I am fully in.”

So then I plunged right along, and asked if he would be willing to possibly start earlier than we had originally discussed.  He looked me squarely in the eye and told me that he’s on my schedule, and that he’s ready to start donations whenever I am.

I later relayed this conversation privately to my wife, and it made her night as much as it made mine.

We got home that night and we opened a new bottle of sparkling cider that had been given to us to celebrate officially having donors. (We had both had enough alcohol by this point in the night.)


Christmas with my family this year was a blast and a half.  We ate too much food, watched the movie Willow, and spent the entire day together.

We got many gifts, but honestly, they were a background in my mind.  The gift of having a solid donor couple, and of having a donor, is more than I could have asked for this year.


These pride mugs from my brother and sister-in-law definitely made me happy though.  =)

I hope anyone who read this had a fantastic holiday this year.  I’m very excited to be heading towards 2017.  We have a doctor’s appointment, we have secured donors, and I’m excited for the journey ahead.


For the very last time, I have wiped this blog clean.  For the very last time I have deleted all posts and content.

This blog, moving forward, will be the blog I’ve been waiting to write my entire life; this will be my family planning blog about my upcoming journey to Mommyhood with my amazing wife.

This blog will be about sperm donors and friendships that are turning into donor-friendship relationships.  This blog will be about two millennial women attempting to navigate the confusing world of conceiving a pregnancy during a time of social political tensions inside their country.

This blog will be about, in a nutshell, trying to become pregnant.  And all the trials and tribulations that will be a part of this long journey.

I greet any and all who wish to follow me on this crazy journey.  2017 is going to be an insane year, and I mean that in the best way possible.