Round #2 of Artificial Inseminations Are Now Complete

As of today my wonderful wife and I have completed round #2 of artificial inseminations.  This round was pretty wild and crazy because my surge and ovulation occurred 3-4 days later than my previous two cycles.

My first positive OPK (ovulation prediction kit) for the last two months occurred four days after I had finished my period.  On this, our second cycle, the first positive OPK happened a smooth seven days after I had finished my last period.

I experienced what so many women in my TTC Facebook groups have experienced; my period and cycle completely reset after the initial introduction of sperm inside my body.

What made this cycle of pregnancy attempts so wild and crazy is that my wife and I decided to start our attempts one day earlier than our previous cycle…and this happened before we realized my surge and ovulation were happening later this month!

The result of this was that we accidentally started the inseminations a bit early, ahead of my surge…which means that by the time the surge and ovulation actually happened we did a total of seven artificial inseminations.

…..SEVEN!!  I mean, what the even hell!?

The amazing thing about all of this is that our donor was completely understanding about all of it.  I was honest with him about my surge and cycle being different this month, and before I could even ask if there were any way he could give us even more inseminations after the initial three, he beat me to it by saying “No problem, we’ll just continue with the inseminations until you surge.”

…I’ll truly never understand how we got so lucky with a donor.

The area we live in was predicted to be hit with a pretty large snowstorm this week, and so to be able to continue inseminations my wife and I purposely got snowed in with our donor and his girlfriend last night.

It was fun, relaxing, and everyone had a great time.  For all of the new followers on this blog, I’ll quickly explain that our donor and his girlfriend are two of our closest friends. We’ve known them for years and years.

This round of inseminations has gone completely differently from the first.  And I don’t even mean because we used softcups to inseminate instead of syringes with preseed.  My body feels fine, it feels mostly normal in fact.  Last cycle, during our first attempt, my body felt crazy, off, and completely foreign to me.

I suppose after getting three doses of sperm in our first attempt last month my body is more use to sperm, and is no longer being shocked by something it doesn’t recognize.

We are officially in our second two week wait!! I am feeling much more relaxed, normal, and way less crazed than after our first attempt last month.

The only thing I’ve noticed physically, which started last night, is that I have a “warm, fuzzy feeling” all throughout my ovaries and pelvic area.  I’m not sure what this is from, but it feels nice and comforting, and isn’t painful, strange, or harmful feeling, so I’m not worried.

I’ll try to update more during this two week wait than I did last cycle.  I’m happy to be feeling much more like myself this time around.

Soft Cups Vs. Diva Cups for Artificial Insemination

Since my last entry I’ve practiced with two of the Instead brand soft cups for the past two days.  My immediate results are that these are ten hundred times easier than the Diva cups/menstrual cups!

I first started to try using the Diva Cup last year in the place of tampons for my menstrual cycle.  This was way before I knew my wife and I would even seriously entertain the idea of trying for a pregnancy via artificial insemination at home.

I….didn’t have much luck with them.  I tried to use them for several different periods, before giving up in a heap of frustration and going back to the tampon life.

Upon joining TTC groups on FB last year I discovered that many women try to use menstrual or soft cups after artificial inseminations to help hold the sperm inside their bodies-I thought this was brilliant!

So last cycle my wife and I ordered and bought me fresh diva cups to try and help hold the sperm inside my body after inseminations.

It…did not work out so well.  There was lots of diva cup drama our very first insemination that led to a lot of pain and uncomfortableness the next day.  We also had some cup drama after the third insemination, and both instances stressed me out.

I’ve recently noticed that a lot of the women in our TTC groups have said that they had no luck with the Diva or menstrual Cups, but that they love the Instead brand soft cups for inseminations because they hold the sperm must closer to the cervix.

Upon further investigation, the internet confirmed for me that the soft cups are very different from the Diva Cups.

They are inserted into your body in a very different way…a much easier way.  They also sit differently inside your body, and sure enough, they sit right underneath the cervix.

I definitely had a bias against trying them because of my bad luck with the Diva Cup.  Even knowing that they are inserted differently, and sit inside the body differently, I was still cynical abut getting the hang of them.  I couldn’t have been more wrong.

I’m able to insert the soft cup right into my body.  Flawlessly.  Comfortably.  It feels comfortable once it’s inside my body, unlike the Diva cup.

For this cycle we are going to skip the syringe all together, and just have our donor donate directly into the soft cup. I will then just plop the soft cup with the sperm inside of it right into my body.  This pleases me greatly because more women in our TTC groups have been able to conceive at home doing this method, as oppose to using a syringe.

We are also going to have me eat pineapple core for a few days after I ovulate, because bromelain is said to help with implantation.  Many women in our TTC groups have done this, and many have had success.  Though of course none can say whether eating pineapple actually helped.

The whole pineapple thing seems very unlikely to me that it could make a difference in implantation.  I kind of feel like either you are going to get pregnant, or you aren’t.  But at the same time what can it hurt?! So alas, we will try it.

We will begin our inseminations for this cycle tonight!  Based on the OPKs, I am predicted to start surging tomorrow, so ovulation can happen anywhere between tomorrow and Saturday.  Our amazing and helpful donor has agreed to four inseminations this cycle.  Tonight, tomorrow night, Friday night, and sometime on Saturday.

Here we goooo!. Cycle #2.  Perhaps soft cups and pineapple will be the answer.  Only time will tell!

Christmas Eve With Our New Donor Couple

My wife and I were invited to spend Christmas Eve with our very newly secured donor couple this year.  When I say “very newly” secured I mean that I sat down with them both just a week ago today, separately, and asked if they would be a donor couple for us.

We made an apple pie and brought it over to their home. I had offered to after our donor’s girlfriend told us that she planned on buying one after all the dinner they were cooking. At the time that I had offered, via text message, she seemed very warmed and happy that I had offered.

The evening was fun and warm, and full of secret glances and smiles.  A short while after we had arrived, our donor followed me into their kitchen.

He greeted me with a laugh as he said “Hey Baby Mama!,” and I, comfortable in our level of friendship and years of knowing each other, plunged right in with “so you are truly on board with all of this?”

For a moment he looked somewhat hurt at the thought that maybe I wasn’t fully trusting that he was 100% willing to be our donor.  But, this was the first time seeing him since I had sat him down and asked.  My heart was too afraid to accept several text message confirmations as truly being on board.

He instantly reassured me with “How could I deny you this happiness? My only concern was that (insert his girlfriend’s name) was on board, and with her blessing, I am fully in.”

So then I plunged right along, and asked if he would be willing to possibly start earlier than we had originally discussed.  He looked me squarely in the eye and told me that he’s on my schedule, and that he’s ready to start donations whenever I am.

I later relayed this conversation privately to my wife, and it made her night as much as it made mine.

We got home that night and we opened a new bottle of sparkling cider that had been given to us to celebrate officially having donors. (We had both had enough alcohol by this point in the night.)

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Christmas with my family this year was a blast and a half.  We ate too much food, watched the movie Willow, and spent the entire day together.

We got many gifts, but honestly, they were a background in my mind.  The gift of having a solid donor couple, and of having a donor, is more than I could have asked for this year.

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These pride mugs from my brother and sister-in-law definitely made me happy though.  =)

I hope anyone who read this had a fantastic holiday this year.  I’m very excited to be heading towards 2017.  We have a doctor’s appointment, we have secured donors, and I’m excited for the journey ahead.

Wiped

For the very last time, I have wiped this blog clean.  For the very last time I have deleted all posts and content.

This blog, moving forward, will be the blog I’ve been waiting to write my entire life; this will be my family planning blog about my upcoming journey to Mommyhood with my amazing wife.

This blog will be about sperm donors and friendships that are turning into donor-friendship relationships.  This blog will be about two millennial women attempting to navigate the confusing world of conceiving a pregnancy during a time of social political tensions inside their country.

This blog will be about, in a nutshell, trying to become pregnant.  And all the trials and tribulations that will be a part of this long journey.

I greet any and all who wish to follow me on this crazy journey.  2017 is going to be an insane year, and I mean that in the best way possible.

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